The key here is to expect and learn from setbacks on the road to a long-term goal. Take a long view of this group dynamic and proceed in ways informed by the best research on effective decision-making in complex, unpredictable environments.
Choose Your Lift Level
What do you have capacity for today? Whether it's a light lift, or something a little heavier, taking a step is what counts.
Watch the beginning of this video on failing fast.
The Science Behind It
Video gamers are a unique bunch of problem solvers. Unlike me (I launch into any new game with the sole intent of winning it ASAP), gamers like to lose - at least at first. Many will start a new game by learning how to fail quickly. Then, they start over… again and again. Over time, this allows them to uncover the often-hidden rules of the game that provide its structure. Once the gamer has discovered these rules, they can more quickly master and prevail at the game, knowing its underlying logic.
The problems we face involve real people with feelings and tempers and maybe a history of grievances. Seeking to fail may add fuel to the fire. Nevertheless, the chances of failing in our attempts to work things out together are decent, so learning to take on a learning frame regarding setbacks is one way to keep hope alive.
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Get daily exercise reminders on your phone or email throughout The Challenge to stay on track.
- Better navigate politically polarizing situations
- Repair strained relationships with family and friends
- Become a less reactive and more effective communicator
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