Intentionally complicate your in-group - challenge your in-group's thinking, feeling, acting, and living habits. Learn to recognize your in-group's own contradiction, nuance, and opposition - before you zero in on actionable decisions.
Choose Your Lift Level
What do you have capacity for today? Whether it's a light lift, or something a little heavier, taking a step is what counts.
How Tight Are We?
Both the "tightness" and "looseness" of group norms have their benefits and consequences. Still, these days, when it comes to more liberal or conservative political in-groups, tightness often prevails and can become problematic.
So, is your in-group tighter or looser when it comes to politics?
Watch this short video of Michele Gelfand speaking on her research on tight vs. loose norms, and then reflect on the possible consequences of these norms for your own in-group.
The Science Behind It
Research has shown that groups with tighter, versus looser, norms around how their members should and should not behave tend to control and punish members who break the rules and deviate from acceptable behavior. Think of the difference in the experiences of members of cults or Army units (tight groups) versus members of most garage bands or skater communities (loose norms).
End the day by making a few notes on how to practice, practice, practice all of these in-group-complicating processes.
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